Hi, I’m Sarah Tomchesson.
I’m a wholehearted believer that embodied pleasure is not a luxury, it is a lifeline.
My path into this work started nearly two decades ago at a community-based non-profit. Since then, I’ve become a certified sex educator and sex and relationship coach, working with individuals and couples.
I came of age in the queer liberation movement, steeped in riot grrrl music, activist culture, and performance art. These roots still shape how I show up: bold, curious, empathetic and committed to liberation. Today, I’m a midlife parent moving through perimenopause while raising a kid moving through puberty. It is an experience that’s both magical and maddening. Nearly a decade ago, my co-parent and I separated, a process that turned me inside out and ultimately reshaped how I approach love and partnership (for the better). Untangling myself from co-dependent conditioning is my ongoing practice. That work has made me a more grounded coach, a more resourced parent, a more attuned partner, and a better advocate for myself and my clients.
My client work focuses on helping individuals and couples access pleasure as a navigational tool that supports healing, resilience, and joy in a world that asks too much of us. My work centers on deprogramming shame, inviting in more self-love, unblocking communication gaps in relationships, developing a grounded sense of empowerment and body acceptance, and liberating desire.
My definition of pleasure includes the erotic, but sexual pleasure isn’t the end goal. If sex isn’t your primary source of joy or aliveness, you’re not alone. For many of us, simple daily pleasures are the most powerful pathways to a more embodied life.
Beyond my client work, I work with the Magic Wand brand, and served as the Vice Chair of the Board for SIECUS: Sex Ed for Social Change for 7 years. In my “me time,” you’ll find me hiking around California, lifting heavy weights at the Y, cooking with my loved ones, chasing hot springs, or curled up with my kid, partner, and our pack of furry rescues.
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