Hi, I’m Sarah Tomchesson.
I’m a wholehearted believer that embodied presence and pleasure aren’t luxuries—they’re lifelines.
My path into this work started nearly two decades ago at a non-profit supporting incarcerated parents and their families. That’s where I first encountered community-based sex education. Since then, I’ve become a certified sex educator and, more recently, a sex and relationship coach, working with individuals and couples for 18 years.
I came of age in the queer liberation movement, steeped in riot grrrl music, activist culture, and performance art. These roots still shape how I show up: bold, curious, and committed to liberation. Today, I’m a midlife parent moving through perimenopause while raising a kid moving through puberty—an experience that’s both magical and maddening. Nearly a decade ago, my co-parent and I separated, a process that turned me inside out and ultimately reshaped how I approach love and partnership (for the better). Untangling myself from co-dependent conditioning is my ongoing practice. That work has made me a more grounded coach, a more resourced parent, a more attuned partner, and a better advocate for myself and my clients.
With clients, my focus is helping individuals and couples access pleasure as a navigational tool—one that supports healing, resilience, and joy in a world that asks too much of us. My work centers on deprogramming shame and inviting in more self-love, acceptance, and liberation.
My definition of pleasure includes the erotic, but sexual pleasure isn’t the end goal. If sex isn’t your primary source of joy or aliveness, you’re not broken—you’re human. For many of us, simple daily pleasures are the most powerful pathways to a more joyful, expansive life.
Beyond my client work, I work with the Magic Wand brand, co-host the feminist podcast F*ck Yeah, and serve as Vice Chair of the Board for SIECUS: Sex Ed for Social Change. In my actual “me time,” you’ll find me hiking around California, lifting heavy weights at the Y, cooking with my loved ones, chasing hot springs, or curled up with my kid, partner, and our pack of furry rescues.
