Hi, I’m Sarah Tomchesson.
Above all, I am a wholehearted believer that pleasure is not a luxury.
I am a Certified Sex Educator and Intimacy Coach, with 18 years experience under my belt. Embodied practices are central to my personal and professional work. As a queer, kinky femme, I offer a soft place to land for anyone who is curious about their desires. I work with the Magic Wand brand, as their staff educator and marketing consultant. I am also the co-host of the feminist podcast F*ck Yeah.
In my “me” time you can find me hiking around California, working out at the Y, cooking for friends and fam, chasing hot springs, soaking at the Korean spa or cuddling my tween and our crew of furry rescues.
I came of age in the queer movement when riot girls were all the rage and butch/femme dynamics were a reclamation. I have a bachelor’s in theater/literature, which led me to the discovery that taking my clothes off on stage helped me love my body. I am now a parent going through perimenopause alongside a kid going through puberty, which is mostly magical and sometimes maddening. I have always had monogamous tendencies and deprogramming from co-dependent conditioning is “my work”. I am divorced. The process turned me inside out and fundamentally changed how I approach relationships (for the better).
Despite what western culture has tried to drill into us, pleasure is a much needed anecdote to the pressures of modern living. Pleasure can be the ray of light that softens the challenges of life. I want people to experience more pleasure in their life. I got my start in sex ed, so when I’m working with the concept of pleasure I integrate the erotic but I do not view sexual pleasure as the end all be all. If the erotic is not your main source of joy or daily satisfaction, you are not alone. For many of us, cultivating simple daily pleasures is the best way to expand the joy in our life, and to care for and connect intimately with ourselves. When you are able to find joy or peace in, say, your morning routine you have a grounding point to work with to expand that pleasure into other areas of your life.
I have spent nearly two decades helping individuals and couples show up as their whole authentic selves in relationships, experience more sexual satisfaction, discover joy in the day-to-day, and connect to their desired feelings through pleasure practices. I reorient my clients towards their needs, their desires, their sensuality, their partner/s, and work through limiting beliefs that holding them back. I pull from my professional, creative and personal practices in my work - integrating traditional coaching and facilitation tools, embodiment, sex education, mindfulness, visualization, and storytelling. I would love to cheer you on, push you gently out of your comfort zone, and guide you on your pleasure journey!
